I know I only posted Chapter 4 earlier today but I'll be a bit busy over the coming days so thought I'd put Chapter 5 up to keep things going over the weekend!
CHAPTER 5
As the weeks past by and the September sunshine turned to October rain friends and family visits became less frequent. Kate was content to stay locked in her room with her pictures and memories. She knew her parents were worried and her frequent outbursts did nothing to allay their fears but she had neither the energy nor the inclination to deal with their concerns. She just wanted them to understand without having to explain.
She adored her parents and had always loved spending time with them. As an only child she had never wanted for anything growing up and had always been surrounded with love and support. But they were looking for something she couldn’t give them right now, which was reassurance. She wanted them to find it themselves because she was saving all her energy for Dan and Alex and the memories she had of them. There was no room in her head for anything else right now. ‘Why can’t they just understand…?’ she thought.
She adored her parents and had always loved spending time with them. As an only child she had never wanted for anything growing up and had always been surrounded with love and support. But they were looking for something she couldn’t give them right now, which was reassurance. She wanted them to find it themselves because she was saving all her energy for Dan and Alex and the memories she had of them. There was no room in her head for anything else right now. ‘Why can’t they just understand…?’ she thought.
***
October came round and Jack and Rose had reached crisis point. They were finding it increasingly difficult to handle the constant outbursts, the drinking every day and the lack of communication. They had decided they could no longer deal with this on their own and had called Dan’s family in to help. They had tried hard to get through to Kate. But she wouldn’t talk to them. She wouldn’t tell them how she was feeling and they struggled to understand why she wouldn’t talk to somebody. It was obvious to them she needed help to cope with everything that had happened, why couldn’t she see that? There had been a few moments in the course of the past few weeks where they allowed themselves to feel hope that she was making progress. She would appear from her room and talk about something Alex had done or Dan had said. She would be animated and laughing telling the story. Then just as quickly as she had begun speaking she would abruptly stop, take another bottle of wine or some vodka and go back upstairs. The dark cloud descending around her as she climbed each step.
‘We need to get help for her.’ Jack and Rose were sitting at the kitchen table with Claire, her husband Des and Jeremy.
‘What if we removed all the drink from the house?’
‘Rose, I think she’s a big enough girl now to be able to go out and buy her own alcohol if she wants. So us removing it will probably just annoy her.’
Jeremy wasn’t sure that was the answer to the problem.
‘I think she would get antagonized by that and may move even further away from us.’
‘Maybe you’re right Jeremy, but what else can we do? She won’t even listen to us when we talk of her seeing someone,’ Rose was finding it hard to keep the tears at bay.
Des interjected.
‘I feel it’s important to listen to what Kate is really saying during these outbursts. It’s not about you two, even though it may feel like it at the time.’
‘But she calls us terrible names Desmond, just awful, she screams and shouts at us and tells us she wished she’d never been born and that we are the worst parents in the world.’
Rose was now visibly upset and Jack placed his arm around her in an attempt to comfort her.
‘Love, Des is probably right. She needs to take her anger out on someone and we’re the closest thing she has so even though she’s saying the words, it’s not what she really means. It’s just she can’t get to what she really wants to say. Isn’t that right Des?’
‘That’s exactly it Jack. She can’t touch the real feelings and why she is really angry yet because it’s still too raw and so the anger has to go somewhere Rose. Honestly, I wouldn’t tell you this if I didn’t believe that’s what’s happening. What we need to do now is see how we can help you manage the situation until Kate is ready to deal constructively with it.’
‘I could try to talk to her again?’ Claire offered. ‘Or even Rachel could? She may feel less antagonized if it was either of us?’
Claire saw Jack and Rose pass a look between them.
‘Sorry you two I didn’t mean it like it came out. I mean because she isn’t seeing us all the time she might feel less inclined to take the anger out on us.’
‘It’s alright Claire, we know what you mean. Look at this point we are happy to try anything any of you feel will work, isn’t that right Rose?’
‘Yes, absolutely,’ Rose lifted her head and looked around.
‘Thank you all for this, Jack and I just felt it had come to the point where we weren’t able to help her anymore.’
‘We’re glad you called Rose. We are family and you two shouldn’t have to carry this burden on your own. That’s what it’s all about in this life.’ A deathly silence enveloped the small group as Claire’s words resonated through the room.
‘Oh this is all so awful.’ Rose broke down and gave into the pressure of the past few weeks. Jack held her tight and let her cry.
Claire laid her head on Des’s shoulder and he gently placed his arm around her and held her close. Jeremy busied himself putting on the kettle as he watched the tearful scenes in front of him.
‘How on earth did we get here?’ he thought to himself.
‘Why don’t we see if Rachel can get through to her Claire?’ Jeremy took the mugs from the press and placed them on the kitchen table.
‘I don’t mind, whatever you feel may work,’ Claire opened the fridge to retrieve the milk.
‘I just think Jack and Rose need a break from trying to get through to her.’
‘Yes, that’s a good idea Jeremy. I think she feels least threatened by Rachel.’
Jack was still comforting Rose and gently released her from his embrace as Jeremy placed the teapot in the middle of the table.
‘There’s biscuits in the press there on your left Desmond, would you put some on a plate?’ Rose said softly.
‘Let’s give her a call and explain what we are thinking so and see what she says?’
‘Great idea,’ Jeremy said to Jack as he poured the tea for everyone.
‘We need to get help for her.’ Jack and Rose were sitting at the kitchen table with Claire, her husband Des and Jeremy.
‘What if we removed all the drink from the house?’
‘Rose, I think she’s a big enough girl now to be able to go out and buy her own alcohol if she wants. So us removing it will probably just annoy her.’
Jeremy wasn’t sure that was the answer to the problem.
‘I think she would get antagonized by that and may move even further away from us.’
‘Maybe you’re right Jeremy, but what else can we do? She won’t even listen to us when we talk of her seeing someone,’ Rose was finding it hard to keep the tears at bay.
Des interjected.
‘I feel it’s important to listen to what Kate is really saying during these outbursts. It’s not about you two, even though it may feel like it at the time.’
‘But she calls us terrible names Desmond, just awful, she screams and shouts at us and tells us she wished she’d never been born and that we are the worst parents in the world.’
Rose was now visibly upset and Jack placed his arm around her in an attempt to comfort her.
‘Love, Des is probably right. She needs to take her anger out on someone and we’re the closest thing she has so even though she’s saying the words, it’s not what she really means. It’s just she can’t get to what she really wants to say. Isn’t that right Des?’
‘That’s exactly it Jack. She can’t touch the real feelings and why she is really angry yet because it’s still too raw and so the anger has to go somewhere Rose. Honestly, I wouldn’t tell you this if I didn’t believe that’s what’s happening. What we need to do now is see how we can help you manage the situation until Kate is ready to deal constructively with it.’
‘I could try to talk to her again?’ Claire offered. ‘Or even Rachel could? She may feel less antagonized if it was either of us?’
Claire saw Jack and Rose pass a look between them.
‘Sorry you two I didn’t mean it like it came out. I mean because she isn’t seeing us all the time she might feel less inclined to take the anger out on us.’
‘It’s alright Claire, we know what you mean. Look at this point we are happy to try anything any of you feel will work, isn’t that right Rose?’
‘Yes, absolutely,’ Rose lifted her head and looked around.
‘Thank you all for this, Jack and I just felt it had come to the point where we weren’t able to help her anymore.’
‘We’re glad you called Rose. We are family and you two shouldn’t have to carry this burden on your own. That’s what it’s all about in this life.’ A deathly silence enveloped the small group as Claire’s words resonated through the room.
‘Oh this is all so awful.’ Rose broke down and gave into the pressure of the past few weeks. Jack held her tight and let her cry.
Claire laid her head on Des’s shoulder and he gently placed his arm around her and held her close. Jeremy busied himself putting on the kettle as he watched the tearful scenes in front of him.
‘How on earth did we get here?’ he thought to himself.
‘Why don’t we see if Rachel can get through to her Claire?’ Jeremy took the mugs from the press and placed them on the kitchen table.
‘I don’t mind, whatever you feel may work,’ Claire opened the fridge to retrieve the milk.
‘I just think Jack and Rose need a break from trying to get through to her.’
‘Yes, that’s a good idea Jeremy. I think she feels least threatened by Rachel.’
Jack was still comforting Rose and gently released her from his embrace as Jeremy placed the teapot in the middle of the table.
‘There’s biscuits in the press there on your left Desmond, would you put some on a plate?’ Rose said softly.
‘Let’s give her a call and explain what we are thinking so and see what she says?’
‘Great idea,’ Jeremy said to Jack as he poured the tea for everyone.
***
The following morning Kate woke early. She had slept fitfully again. Her mouth felt furry and dry. ‘I need water’ she thought. She reached over and took a drink from the glass beside her bed.
‘Oh crap,’ the taste reminded her of the night before.
‘That’s not water, that’s bloody straight vodka.’ She drank it anyway. ‘Better than nothing.’
Her stomach grumbled and she tried to remember the last time she ate.
‘Some toast yesterday evening I think,’ she tried to think back. ‘Yes, that was it, just to satisfy Mum I’m not trying to starve myself to death.’
She reached for her packet of cigarettes. If Dan could see her now he would be so disappointed. Kate had given up thirteen years previous, when she had met Dan. He hated that she smoked and paid for her to do the Alan Carr course to quit. She hadn’t told him at the time, but willpower alone would probably have done. She was so in love with Dan she would have gladly walked to the moon if he had asked her.
The pictures of her life with Dan and Alex still lay all over her bed and any available floor space was covered with her memories. She had even asked friends to bring over any they had. They had all responded tremendously, not knowing what she wanted them for and too afraid to ask. It was strange, but she was surrounded by fear now. Everyone was afraid of their shadow around her. Nobody quite knew what to say to her anymore. Everyone treated her differently. She could see the pity in their eyes when they called with food hampers or sympathy cards and flowers. Those damn flowers. She had told her mum to take them away whenever they arrived. She couldn’t stand looking at them. They reminded her too much of the beautiful bouquets Dan always sent her. It had been a ‘thing’ with them from the very start after their first date in Toners in Baggott St, if you can call it a date. It was more a drunken snog after a rugby match. Dan had asked one of her friends for her address and phone number and a huge bunch of pale pink roses had arrived the next morning asking her for an ‘official’ date to see if the electricity between them had been caused by more than drunkedness whilst drowning their sorrows after Irelands defeat against England in Lansdowne Road. She remembered now how delighted she was and the excitement had reached fever pitch between her and her girlfriends by the time her date night arrived the following Friday. The attention to detail was laughable now. She was buffed, scrubbed and plucked to within an inch of her life. Her hair and makeup were flawless and her outfit had been chosen after extensive consultation between herself and her three best friends, using items from all their wardrobes.
The memories just kept flooding back. Kate couldn’t control their flow, she didn’t want to. Because if she tried she was afraid she would forget and she certainly had no intention of doing that. She thought of that first kiss over and over. The tingling sensation she got all over her body when Dan kissed her. The first time they made love. When he proposed on bended knee in their favourite Parisian restaurant, La Precope. She remembered the night she conceived Alex. She had just known that was it after they had made love, although there was a tremendous amount of wishful thinking thrown in for good measure. Then the night Alex was born and the beautiful eternity ring Dan gifted her with in honor of the occasion. She remembered the awfulness of Dan’s cancer diagnosis and how she thought that was the worse thing that was ever going to happen to them. She remembered celebrating when he got the all clear. She remembered Alex’s first smile. His first steps in the kitchen downstairs. His first words, da da, and when he was a few months older how he loved to hug her tight and say ma ma over and over whilst nuzzling her neck. With each memory came a fresh wave of tears. With each tear the pain in her heart grew. Every picture she looked at brought with it fresh memories and more pain but no matter what she felt Kate couldn’t tear herself away because in doing so she knew they would be gone forever. All she wanted to do was keep them both as close as she could for as long as could. Kate heard herself laugh and stopped abruptly. She always felt guilty when she did it now.
‘How can I’, she thought. ‘I can’t laugh, not now. Dan and Alex can never laugh again’. Yet again the tears flowed and she did nothing to stop them. She couldn’t. She knew that at least her grandma Betty would find a positive quote for her.
‘Better out than in child,’ she always said. Kate thought about her grandmother now. She wondered if she was looking after Alex for her and Dan too. Particularly Alex. He would be scared without his Mum there to look out for him. That was the one blessing Kate could take from all this, that they were together, Dan and Alex. Dan had held Alex when he was born and passed him into Kate’s arms. Alex loved his Dad so much, tried to copy everything he did, from starting rugby last year to soccer and even skiing. Kate knew if heaven had a rugby field or soccer pitch Alex was playing on it and Dan was lovingly watching his son from the sidelines, proud as punch of him. Holding a picture of the three of them together she said a silent prayer. The same one she repeated every day now.
‘My darling Dan please look after yourself and Alex. Make sure to give him extra hugs and kisses all the time and tell him they’re from me. I miss you both so much. I love you with everything I have.’
‘And Lord if you can, please give Dan the strength to look after our son without me. Thank you.’
‘Oh crap,’ the taste reminded her of the night before.
‘That’s not water, that’s bloody straight vodka.’ She drank it anyway. ‘Better than nothing.’
Her stomach grumbled and she tried to remember the last time she ate.
‘Some toast yesterday evening I think,’ she tried to think back. ‘Yes, that was it, just to satisfy Mum I’m not trying to starve myself to death.’
She reached for her packet of cigarettes. If Dan could see her now he would be so disappointed. Kate had given up thirteen years previous, when she had met Dan. He hated that she smoked and paid for her to do the Alan Carr course to quit. She hadn’t told him at the time, but willpower alone would probably have done. She was so in love with Dan she would have gladly walked to the moon if he had asked her.
The pictures of her life with Dan and Alex still lay all over her bed and any available floor space was covered with her memories. She had even asked friends to bring over any they had. They had all responded tremendously, not knowing what she wanted them for and too afraid to ask. It was strange, but she was surrounded by fear now. Everyone was afraid of their shadow around her. Nobody quite knew what to say to her anymore. Everyone treated her differently. She could see the pity in their eyes when they called with food hampers or sympathy cards and flowers. Those damn flowers. She had told her mum to take them away whenever they arrived. She couldn’t stand looking at them. They reminded her too much of the beautiful bouquets Dan always sent her. It had been a ‘thing’ with them from the very start after their first date in Toners in Baggott St, if you can call it a date. It was more a drunken snog after a rugby match. Dan had asked one of her friends for her address and phone number and a huge bunch of pale pink roses had arrived the next morning asking her for an ‘official’ date to see if the electricity between them had been caused by more than drunkedness whilst drowning their sorrows after Irelands defeat against England in Lansdowne Road. She remembered now how delighted she was and the excitement had reached fever pitch between her and her girlfriends by the time her date night arrived the following Friday. The attention to detail was laughable now. She was buffed, scrubbed and plucked to within an inch of her life. Her hair and makeup were flawless and her outfit had been chosen after extensive consultation between herself and her three best friends, using items from all their wardrobes.
The memories just kept flooding back. Kate couldn’t control their flow, she didn’t want to. Because if she tried she was afraid she would forget and she certainly had no intention of doing that. She thought of that first kiss over and over. The tingling sensation she got all over her body when Dan kissed her. The first time they made love. When he proposed on bended knee in their favourite Parisian restaurant, La Precope. She remembered the night she conceived Alex. She had just known that was it after they had made love, although there was a tremendous amount of wishful thinking thrown in for good measure. Then the night Alex was born and the beautiful eternity ring Dan gifted her with in honor of the occasion. She remembered the awfulness of Dan’s cancer diagnosis and how she thought that was the worse thing that was ever going to happen to them. She remembered celebrating when he got the all clear. She remembered Alex’s first smile. His first steps in the kitchen downstairs. His first words, da da, and when he was a few months older how he loved to hug her tight and say ma ma over and over whilst nuzzling her neck. With each memory came a fresh wave of tears. With each tear the pain in her heart grew. Every picture she looked at brought with it fresh memories and more pain but no matter what she felt Kate couldn’t tear herself away because in doing so she knew they would be gone forever. All she wanted to do was keep them both as close as she could for as long as could. Kate heard herself laugh and stopped abruptly. She always felt guilty when she did it now.
‘How can I’, she thought. ‘I can’t laugh, not now. Dan and Alex can never laugh again’. Yet again the tears flowed and she did nothing to stop them. She couldn’t. She knew that at least her grandma Betty would find a positive quote for her.
‘Better out than in child,’ she always said. Kate thought about her grandmother now. She wondered if she was looking after Alex for her and Dan too. Particularly Alex. He would be scared without his Mum there to look out for him. That was the one blessing Kate could take from all this, that they were together, Dan and Alex. Dan had held Alex when he was born and passed him into Kate’s arms. Alex loved his Dad so much, tried to copy everything he did, from starting rugby last year to soccer and even skiing. Kate knew if heaven had a rugby field or soccer pitch Alex was playing on it and Dan was lovingly watching his son from the sidelines, proud as punch of him. Holding a picture of the three of them together she said a silent prayer. The same one she repeated every day now.
‘My darling Dan please look after yourself and Alex. Make sure to give him extra hugs and kisses all the time and tell him they’re from me. I miss you both so much. I love you with everything I have.’
‘And Lord if you can, please give Dan the strength to look after our son without me. Thank you.’